Six Big Realizations For 2017

Hi guys! In the past few months I’ve been lucky enough to encounter (though not personally meet) huge contributors in changing the way I look at things. Truly grateful for Gary Vaynerchuk, Peter Voogd, and The Fizzle Show Podcast. So in the process of self-development, I’ve given myself three goals for the year and they are Execution (in terms of business), Fitness (lose weight and stay fit), and Inspire (hopefully help others through my struggles and realizations).

I’m writing this as a way for me to keep track of my realizations and at the same time hopefully help others who go through the same struggles along the way. So without further ado! Here they are!


Who are you question

  1. Authenticity goes a long way

    • Change always begins with acceptance of who you are, what you are good at, and what you’re not good at. Similar to the concept of DABDA (Five Stages of Grief – Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance): the moment you accept the current reality you live in is also the moment you can finally make that decision to take that first step forward. Everything we do is on us. WE and no one else can make the decision on whether we move forward or simply accept our “fate”. Know what you’re good at and focus on it. Do not wish to be someone just because it sounds cool or it’s currently the “it” thing. Just be YOU. It is easier said than done and can sometimes be painful, but by accepting who and what you are will remove so much pressure and weight off of you.
    • Biggest tip:
      1. Focus on what you are good and what you can do rather than complain on what you can’t do. (Tip: leverage others on what you cannot do while you do what you can)

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  1. Journaling seems lame, but very helpful

    • This is another one of my realizations that I’m currently still working on. Journaling has been a huge help for me so far, especially for someone like me who doesn’t quite know the directions I want to head to.
    • This is a good example: Once you kind of know (hopefully already know, but no pressure. Hehe.) what you want to do in your life, you start feeling all motivated and excited, and then immediately lose all of it once you start feeling lost? Think of life as your favorite restaurant, you know where it is, but you have no idea how to get there. This is where journaling comes in! For me, journaling is my way of navigating and understanding the things I have to do in order for me to reach my goals.
    • Biggest tips:
      1. Goal setting and action planning can be done through journaling
      2. Appreciate yourself and the things around you (cheesy, I know, but gratitude towards what you have everyday can make you a happier person – I make sure to write at least one person/thing/event that I’m grateful for everyday in my journal)
      3. Understanding that change happens to your situations and even long-term goals along the way and that it is fine. This happens.

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Loop – Daily Habit at Google PlayStore
  1. Consistency is key

    • Create good habits with the mindset of achieving your long-term goals. Exercise, meditate, or write in your journals just to name a few. I personally start my day by fixing my bed and it gives me this sense of achievement that I have cleared the very first item in my checklist for the day. Something so simple and small may not make sense now, but I believe that these small habits eventually build up to who you will be years from now.
    • Stay committed to your goals. This is difficult and where most people fail at. It is easy to say that you have plans and goals, but if I ask you again months or years from now, will it still be the same? Do not let your vision ride circumstances or trends; instead have a concrete and consistent one.
    • Biggest tips:
      1. Simple things done consistently eventually leads to bigger things. It begins with habits.
      2. Stick to your goals because that is what you want and not because someone you know wants it. Visions do not change when trends change.

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  1. Audit your Circle of Influence (COI)

    • You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with. This is a scary fact. Surround yourself with five negative people, you become the sixth one. Their attitudes and beliefs eventually rub off on you. Look at achievers and other entrepreneurs. Look at the people around them. They surround themselves with like-minded people. Look around you and then think about it.
    • Biggest tips:
      1. Lessen your time with Maintenance friends while you increase the time you spend with Growth friends.
      2. Network. When you are the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong one.
      3. Read books, take online classes. In some ways the people, author, or the mentors become part of your circle of influence.

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  1. Most things do not matter

    • Don’t sweat the small stuff. Whatever is happening to you right now might not even matter to you years, months, or weeks from now. Change your perspective on how you look at problems and situations. Here’s an example:
      • You’re late and still stuck in traffic on your way to work and some random guy counterflows and he decides to cut you off. You either let that ruin your day even further through road rage (possibly causing an accident) and telling everyone at work how this guy ruined your day or simply stay calm and let him have his own accident.
    • Respect their opinions, but never listen to them. He thinks you can’t do it? Okay, cool. That’s his opinion, not yours. That shouldn’t affect your decision that you’re going to aim to achieve it anyway.
    • Biggest tip:
      1. It’s all about perspective. Look at what’s truly important for you and you’ll see how so many things around you are petty issues and don’t really bother you.

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  1. Do – what sets you apart from the others

    • “Ideas are shit. Execution is the game.” Everybody has ideas, but majority won’t be doing anything to turn them to actual products.
    • “The only controllable thing you can do to change the outcomes that disappoint you is work.” This goes hand in hand with perspective. Someone will always have more advantage than you, but you and your work ethic are your own determining factor in how you will be in the future.
    • You can never be 100% ready. No one is, but what sets successful people apart from unsuccessful ones is their ability to take actions despite the risk of failing.
    • Biggest tip:
      1. “You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love” – Jim Carrey

I would just like to let everyone know that I am a work in progress. I am still struggling somehow with identity crisis and quarter life crisis, but I am doing something about it. So yeah, you are not alone. It’s normal to struggle, but we have to understand that it is our decision to do something about it or not.

So there you have it! Hope these can somehow help you look at things differently. I’m still thinking about what else to write in my next blog posts, but they will most likely revolve around my daily realizations and where my progress is with these realizations. I’m open to conversations, reactions, and feedbacks!

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